love is all around?

In Spanish there are two types of love- the verbs querer and amar. If you tell someone “te quiero” they will usually smile and return the friendly phrase. No big deal. If you tell someone “te amo,” man, that is intense. You are seriously, romantically in love with that person.

How do you know, how does anyone know when they’re really in love? Not just like “I LOVE being with you,” but “I am in LOVE with you and the idea of possibly keeping you in my life forever.” I’m not so sure if I believe that people only fall in love once. There have not been many times when I have felt that awful feeling in my stomach or reached that noticeable stage of depression after someone close has left me. But when that happens, when I care that much that it emotionally and physically hurts, is that love? Is love just some made-up ideal to make that pain seem bearable because you can put this cheerful label on it?

I just want to know. How will I know when I have reached that “AMAR” form of love?